Today I’m starting Seven Days of Self-Love. Are you in?
Slacking on self-care a bit over the summer made me really feel the difference that The Sixty Days of Self-Care Challenge made in my life. I don’t know about you, but I could definitely use a little motivation to step it up. If seven days sounds doable, I’d love it if you’d join in!
It feels like a good time to start, to prevent the winter blues from setting in, and to get some good habits started before the holidays.
Feel free to start anytime though! Same guidelines apply as with #sixtydaysofselfcare – The term self-love is just feeling more nourishing to me at the moment – and I think we could all use a little more love. (Find more info here / basically – do at least one thing that nourishes your mind, body & soul everyday)
Continue to share what you’re up to on The Lotus Root Facebook page + instagram (#SevenDaysOfSelfLove), or keep emailing me your pics/stories if you don’t want to share them publicly. (TheLotusRoot@gmail.com) I’ll be cheering you on the whole time.
Remember – this is not a selfish act. When people see you giving yourself love, it makes them feel better about doing the same. It creates a ripple effect. Plus – it keeps you accountable so you won’t give up on yourself! *Added bonus: Taking part in this *will*make you more radiant. Believe me, people can feel it when you take the time to give yourself love.*
Day 1: Making sure to stay hydrated
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Since the Herbal Medicine Everyday challenge was a hit, I’ve started a new challenge: Sixty Days of Self Care.
The rules are – there are no rules :) I’m keeping this really loose on purpose. Everyday I’ll be posting one thing I’m doing to care for myself on instagram (whatever I feel that I need that day) I’d love it if you’d join me.
How to participate: Share your self-care practices on Instagram, and use the hashtag #Sixtydaysofselfcare so that others can get inspired. If you don’t have the instagram app, you can follow along and get ideas via the website: www.instagram.com/TheLotusRoot. You can also share what you’ve been doing (in photos or in writing) on The Lotus Root Facebook page, on this thread
Please feel free to participate even if you don’t want to share it publicly. Start a journal dedicated to 60 days of self-care (or just self care in general). It’s nice to record what you’re doing and look back at what worked and what didn’t / to help process what you’re going through / or to see how far you’ve come.
You can start any day you’d like. The days don’t have to be consecutive. Take part in it one day or everyday. Don’t worry If you miss a day – I like to keep things pressure-free. Sometimes the best self-care you can give yourself is simply taking a break from doing anything. Doing absolutely-freakin-nothing counts just as much as self-care as making green juice would. Taking some time to relax your brain and to watch a funny movie is self-love in my book. The key is to do whatever your mind/body/soul needs that day. The less stress and pressure, the better. The key is to just get into the practice of focusing more on caring for yourself, without guilt.
If you decide to take part in the challenge, feel free to share this post so that other people can be inspired to give themselves the love and care they deserve <3
And don’t forget to let me know how it goes! Feel free to get in touch with any insights / observations / questions etc. :)
(While I may not be able to reply right away, I’ll be here cheering you on!!)
I found out last week that the day before Valentines Day was “The International Day of Self-Love”. It makes me happy that this is a thing.
I love that so many people were focusing just as much on self-care as they were on romantic love over Valentine’s Day weekend. It breaks my heart when people feel unworthy of taking care of themselves. I love seeing people empower themselves, and seeing them thrive. This is one of the reasons why I do what I do.
In my early 20’s I struggled with anxiety. It didn’t take long for me to realize that I wanted to overcome it naturally. I figured that I’d need to learn how to take the best possible care of my mind, body & soul to make that happen. After all, if I didn’t do it, who would? I was living in Hawaii at the time, thousands of miles away from my family. Counselors at school just wanted to put me on drugs (which just made me feel tired and out of it – no bueno). My parents did the best that they could while I was growing up, but there were things they never could have known that I needed because my body is uniquely my own. Things like eating healthy, yoga and meditation were not mainstream like they are today. I had to figure out what worked best for me by checking out lots of books from the library, and doing a lot of experimentation. I was amazed by how much better I felt after taking proper care of myself.
Thanks to those experiences, I’ve grown to understand the importance of self-love + self-care (especially of the all-natural, chemical-free variety when appropriate). It’s so important to me that I built a business around it – and try to inspire others to take part in it daily.
BUT – there’s still a part of me that resists it.
Many of us grew up getting the message that self-care / self-improvement is sometimes a good thing, sometimes scoffed at or ridiculed (especially if it’s considered “hippy-dippy” **), often thought of as selfish, a waste of time or money (the latter being the biggest sin of all to many), and something that you sometimes have to hide if you don’t want to be torn down.
Things shifted for me the day I realized that people usually mock things that they’re afraid to do themselves (a.k.a haters gonna hate.) Things changed when I got a better understanding of what people will do to manipulate, control and inflict pain when they themselves are hurting. Now I know not to entertain any of that nonsense.
But sometimes, there’s still that small voice in the back of my mind saying things like:
“Who do you think you are you selfish you-know-what?”
“You spent HOW MUCH on healthy food? (healing/ supplements,etc..)”
“That was a total waste of money.”
“There are more important things to do right now than making juice, doing yoga, etc…”
Or, “You’re gonna look like a total egomaniac / narcissist / weird hippy / fill-in-the-blank when people see what you’re spending your time on”..etc..
My goal is to inspire, but I’m still healing that part of me that feels like I need to protect myself by hiding or by resisting the things I know I need to do to care for my mind/body/soul.
Can you relate?
Ironically though, I realize that the best way to get rid of that shame, and to quiet that harsh inner critic is some good-old-fashioned self-love & self-care.
So, in my attempt to continue to heal so I can serve best, to help inspire others who may feel the same way (or who could just use some fun (mostly) natural tips + ideas), and to say F— YOU to my inner critic, I’m going to begin a 60-days of Self-Care challenge on instagram. Will you join me? (Feel free to start at any time – more details here)
With lots of love,
**You know I’m all about the hippy dippy
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Recently, I created an anonymous survey asking what I could help you with (you’re still welcome to let me know by clicking here.)
I was asked how I’ve dealt with heartache, betrayal, stress + emotional pain, and if there are any natural remedies for those who keep their pain locked up and can’t find peace.
The following are my favorite ways to deal with these feelings. These are important tools to have in your holistic health toolbox – managing stress & dealing with emotions are essential if you want vibrant health & happiness. It’s no secret that, if left unchecked, stress can cause all kinds of problems – aches & pains, breakouts, weight gain, stomach problems, countless illnesses…and the list goes on.
Tools + Techniques:
• eft (emotional freedom technique aka tapping / meridian tapping)
I’ve been impressed by how quickly eft works to help change thought patterns + clear things that I’ve been holding onto.
What is eft, you may ask? Emotional Freedom Technique is a method of tapping acupressure points on the body while making statements about things you’d like to change. My favorite eft practitioners are Brad Yates and David Childerley – you can find Brads videos on his youtube channel (or check out his website for more), and you can find David’s youtube channel here. If you do a quick search on youtube, you’ll most likely find that someone has made a tapping video for whatever ails you or for whatever positive change you’d like to make.
○ Find a quiet, private place to do this. You may feel funny doing it at first but stick with it.
○ Try putting a little bit of lavender essential oil on a tissue and wiping your finger tips off before tapping. Lavender is one of the few oils you can use on your skin without a carrier oil – it’s anti-bacterial, (I believe it helps prevents the breakouts I’m prone to when touching my face) and will give you a soothing aromatherapy session in the process.
○ Rate what’s bothering you on a scale of 1 – 10 before you start
○ Tap along with the practitioner and repeat after them.
○ Check in with yourself once you’re finished and rate the issue again. Repeat the process until it’s bothering you less and less.
○ You may find that tapping for one issue brings another one to the surface. That’s a good thing – it’s giving you a chance to get to the root of the issue, and to let go of things you may not have been consciously aware of. As I mentioned, a youtube search can lead you to a video for whatever else you want to work on (or you can create your own tapping sequence.)
(Click here for part two of this series where I share more tips for dealing with emotional pain / heartache and what to do when you’re feeling resistance around self-care.)
Meditation has helped me get through some of the toughest times in my life. It has been a refuge at times when everything around me felt completely chaotic. Be patient with yourself when just starting out – it gets easier to quiet your thoughts the more you do it. The trick is finding the best form of meditation for you. There are many great types of meditation, and one may speak to you more than the others. Experiment with binaural beats, pranayama or using mudras & mantras (Check out this post to learn about my favorite book on the subject). You can also find many great guided meditation videos on youtube. Grounding meditation has been my favorite method to get centered, protected, and clear of any negative energy I’ve been holding onto.
Yoga has given me more confidence and patience, and has allowed me to get centered, relieve stress, heal and open up my heart and let go of tension & emotions I’ve been holding onto in my body. If you’ve known me for any length of time you know how I feel about outdoor yoga.
Going to yoga classes outside takes away the intimidation factor of stepping into a studio if you’re just starting out. (Plus you get the added healing benefit of fresh air and vitamin D from the sun). I also love Rodney Yees dvds, especially A.M./ P.M Yoga which I’ve been enjoying for about 14 years now. It gives you a nice gentle stretch and is perfect for both beginners and more seasoned yogis.
I feel that there’s something magical that happens when a pen meets paper. Let your thoughts flow out and get it all down on the page without censoring yourself. It’s amazing how journaling can bring light to things in a way that just thinking about them can’t.
• The Work of Byron Katie
This has been incredible for dealing with any feelings towards others or conflict of any kind.
You can do it for free by downloading worksheets on her website. Check out youtube for examples of others doing The Work, or check out Byron Katies books for more info.
To the lovely soul who asked the question on the survey: I hope you were able to find the tools you needed, and I hope you’ve found peace. Time heals all wounds, and these methods can help speed things along. Hopefully the info I’ve shared today has helped. Feel free to get in touch to let me know.
Do you use any of these techniques – or do you have another tool that has worked for you? Let me know in the comments section!
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